Cheating On MySpace....Not Such a Great Idea...

I just went in to get my hair cut today by one of my best friends who happens to work with another friend's ex.......and the reason he is the "ex" is because of me. I got the silent treatment from this guy the entire hour and a half that I was in the salon.....and I didn't know if I should laugh or feel very uncomfortable. After I left the salon I couldn't help replaying the scenario that went down just a few months ago with this guy and how I came to "ruin his life".

A few months ago I busted my friend's boyfriend cheating on her. How, you ask? Well, I have a profile on MySpace, like pretty much everybody else on the planet and their dog does. During one particularly uneventful evening I was going through my list of friends and clicked on her boyfriend's picture to see what he was up to and that is when the proverbial excrement hit the fan.

Let me preface all this by telling you that my best friend (who will here on out be called "Sue" in order to maintain her anonymity) had just left to work in Africa for 9 months teaching AIDS awareness to women and children. Sue and her boyfriend (who I'll call "Bob") had agreed to not see other people and remain completely exclusive while she was gone, although he was not exactly supportive of her decision to go on this mission.

So....when I opened Bob's profile I noticed that he had several blog entries up and upon reading one of them I found out that he had gone to the notorious "Burning Man" and met up with one of the women he had "met" on MySpace who just happened to be a softcore porn model. He spent a week with her there, in a two man tent, after picking her up from Las Vegas. As soon as I read this I got sick to my stomach and called my friend who works with him at the salon and who is also friends with Sue and asked her if she knew what was going on. She said that she had heard him be vague with a client about meeting up with someone at Burning Man and that that was it.......so I told her what I had read and asked her what I should do. Do I call Sue and tell her? Is it my place to? What would I want her to do if the tables were turned?

My friend and I decided to email Bob and let him know that we had read his blog and found out that he had just cheated on our girlfriend and that he needed to come clean with her. He replied to us that he knew he had made a mistake and then gave us this longwinded sob story about how he was feeling lonely and vulnerable. *Cue the violins*........I then told him that he needed to let Sue know what had happened & come clean. He promised me he would. I, naively. believed him.

A month went by and he had yet to tell Sue what happened. In the mean time I was feeling stressed and ill over the situation, hating the fact that I was pretty much in the middle and knowing that if my significant other had cheated on me I would want to know ASAP. I have zero toelrance for disloyalty of any kind and I know that Sue felt the same way. I hated knowing that an entire month had passed and Sue was still thinking that things were fine while here I was knowing the truth but just not knowing how to deliver it.

I finally called her and told her. She got on MySpace and saw for herself what Bob had written. She thanked me and promptly broke up with him. And despite the fact that Sue read with her own eyes about his liaison, he denied everything to her while admitting to his mistake to me and our other friend. This guy is outrageous. He has always known that our band of friends holds a Mafia like loyalty to each other....how did he think he could write about his affair knowing that all of us have MySpace profiles and complete access to his blogs, etc? Don't tell me he didn't want to get caught.

But in Bob's eyes, I ruined his life. I "turned his soulmate away from him". Oh really? Poor guy, he must really be living in an alternate reality.

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